What the hell is going wrong with some of us Men??…

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Originally Posted by 4Vman

Some very good points here guys.

Id be very interested to hear from some of our female members about how they perceive the way some men relate towards them, and women in general, especially in social situations..?

Norm, I said to Russell earlier this morning that I would watch this thread and maybe not comment, however your invitation has seduced me!

As a girl growing up, I had VERY strict parents that were what appeared sometimes a bit over the top and too protective, it did keep me safe and on the straight and narrow. I was involved in a world where there are many dangers (modelling) and the boundaries and rules I had learned, gave me the skills to survive. I was always proactive and never put myself in any situation where something could possibly go pear-shaped out of fear of my father more than the danger to myself.

I went on to have 3 sons of my own and I taught them that it is just as important for a boy to keep yourself safe, as it is a girl. There are many strange queer folk out there. I was a tough hard mother and my youngest recently said to me that I was not like other Mums (hard to be soft and fuzzy when you are raising 3 sons alone) but compared to his friends he has lifeskills that they may never learn and he thanked me for that. I am proud to say that my 3 sons who are all in their 20s now are good young men that have a great respect for women and have always had the courage and strength to stand up against 'pack' mentality. Yes, I used the wooden spoon and I raised them like my parents and grandparents did previous generations. I would be in trouble today for this but maybe they would not be the fine young men they are, had I not. We will never know.

I do not understand why young women continue to put themselves in vulnerable positions that endanger their wellbeing. Yes, I understand that they feel it is a right to be safe wherever they choose to be but the reality is not this simple. All children need to be taught from an early age to err on the side of caution (particularly girls) and not get into any situation where things can go very wrong and they lose control. Always be proactive and sober so you are in control of the situation and the decisions you make. We all know that you don't take drinks from someone elses hand, always keep your thumb over the top of your bottle. if you leave your drink unattended - leave it where it is sitting and buy a new one etc etc. I could go on all day - do people tell kids these things now or do they choose to ignore it?

I am fast approaching 50 and I still keep myself safe. Russell recently set all the doors in the GT and Ute so that when I am on my own the doors automatically lock. I am careful what I wear and where I wear it and do not put myself on 'display' like many women do these days. To be honest the figure isn't what it used to be anyway!

I didn't have girls and I am quite critical of the way many people dress and display their wee girls like sexual objects. Some girls 10 to 13 are dressing like adults and clothing that I find distasteful anyway - yes, I am a bit conservative! Have you read some of the T Shirts they are wearing?

In summary, this is not just about 16 boys raping 2 teenage girls. It is about a world that I don't relate to anymore. Porn, sex parties etc seem to now be socially acceptable and we have it all around us with TV, movies, the Internet and even people we know.

I sound like my mother - oh God!

Gaela